Emotional intimacy in the workplace

By: Kris Boesch Tuesday February 17, 2015 0 comments Tags: Kris Boesch

Kris Boesch


Kris, you've gone too far.

o   Emotional intelligence, check.

o   Culture, check.

o   Relationship building, check.

But emotional intimacy?  At WORK?  What you talkin' 'bout Willis?

I'm talking about the emotional intimacy we crave as human beings and having that experience be commonplace in workplaces.

In most workplaces, gossip is how teams get their "hit." For others, it's their time on Facebook. And yet, both of these are cheap super glue. Nothing like those moments spent around a campfire. Or the duet on the road trip. Or sharing a sunset after a long day.

So what does emotional intimacy look like in the workplace?

It looks like this:

o   Real deal connection

o   A sense of affinity and alliance

o   Intentions are trusted

o   Belonging

o   Contributing

o   Making a difference

o   Being witnessed

o   Fulfilling a meaningful purpose

o   Feeling safe

o   Feeling honored

o   Feeling proud

o   Welcomed

o   Smiles and laughter

o   Thoughtfulness and consideration

o   Commitment to what's best for the whole

o   Easy momentum

o   A sense of place

o   Grace and empathy

o   Inspired effort

o   "I know you have my back."

o   We count on each other

o   Mutual unspoken respect

o   Potential called into being

o   Palpable high energy

o   "We got this."

o   Banding together when "it" hits the fan

o   Standing for each other's success

o   Real deal caring and giving a rat's patootie

o   Spirit of "We'll be damned if we let this stop us!"

o   The sparkle and deep belly light that together anything's possible

o   Creative, no stupid ideas taken prisoner, problem solving

o   Where mistakes really are seen as an opportunity for learning

o   Where no one pillages your stapler or your sandwich

o   Where you don't say you have an open door policy (just like you don't say you're funny or humble.)

o   Where someone searches for a Band-Aid when you're bleeding

o   Throwing away the paper towel on the break room floor (that's not yours) when no one is looking

Every year, every individual on your team gives 2,000 hours of their life to your organization.  Make their experience worthy of your company.

Emotional Intimacy in the Workplace, check.
Kris Boesch

About the Author: Kris Boesch

Kris Boesch is CEO and founder of Choose People, a company that transforms company cultures, increases employee happiness and boosts the bottom-line. The Choose People 360° Culture Audit is based on over 1,000 hours of research Boesch conducted with a team of doctoral students in the Industrial Organizational Psychology Department at Colorado State University.  Prior to Choose People, Boesch was the CEO of Exodus Moving & Storage.  Under her leadership, Exodus became the largest mover in Northern Colorado with a turnover rate nearly 40% less than the industry average and a bottom line twice that same average.